We’re taught that everything is our fault.
Everything is our responsibility.
And I’m so completely over this false narrative that it makes me want to scream.
In so many ways, we get short-changed as women.
We make less money, and we are still responsible for the lion’s share of household chores and child-rearing.
We are often taught that our needs are secondary to those of our partner or our family. Society expects us to come second.
But all of this is a LIE.
We are entitled to and deserve the best for our one-and-only life.
We are Queens, each and every one of us, perfectly made.
And I want you to step up and claim your throne.
“How exactly am I supposed to do that?” you may ask.
Well, let me break it down for you in 3 easy steps.
1- Let Go of Self-Limiting Beliefs
It’s so hard to let go of the beliefs we developed in childhood.
We may have overheard a teacher say something about us and we took it to be true. Then carried that truth around for the rest of our lives.
Maybe a friend or a spouse said something unkind that you’ve internalized.
Or, societal norms or advice from a parent get internalized as a truth.
But I’m here to tell you, most of what you’ve been taught is simply a story to keep you safe.
A story that has served its purpose, and it’s time to let it go.
A childhood friend made fun of you saying you were too quiet?
A spouse told you that you could never make a living doing work you loved?
A teacher once said you weren’t very good at math?
It doesn’t matter what it is that you’re holding on to, it’s time to let it go…
Try writing down on a piece of paper all the negative beliefs you hold. Things you think you “should” do are definite places hidden negative beliefs live. Any thoughts you have that you know are holding you back from living your best life.
Then take that paper and burn it in the fireplace and release those beliefs into the universe. No fireplace? Find another way to burn it. I love fire ceremonies. They help us to release what no longer serves us.
Choose to embrace new, positive thoughts. Let go of the “shoulds” and replace them with beliefs you want to hold.
I don’t have to compromise to be in a relationship.
I am a strong and confident leader.
I can make money doing only work that lights me up.
You can record these thoughts and play them back to yourself several times a day or write them down and read them or rewrite them in your journal every morning.
Once you repeat them to yourself enough, you will have the confidence to take the actions that make those things happen! Remember, nothing is static. Everything is changeable.
2- Honor Your Intuition
As women, we are blessed with a gift. A gift that lets us quickly know if something isn’t right for us. A gift that plants a seed of desire in our heart that we know we are meant to pursue.
And we’re encouraged to throw that gift away.
Trade-in our intuition for figures, facts, and guarantees.
But, when we do this, we forget who we really are, why we’re here, and what we are meant to do. When we don’t listen we sometimes end up on the #DoctorRoadShow looking for answers that are already within us.
Or worse we end up taking medications or having surgery when we knew deep in our hearts it didn’t feel right.
Instead of throwing away our talents and our intuition we need to embrace them.
Fully, and completely, cherish and nurture and encourage our inner voice because it does not lie to us. Every single time that I have gone against my intuition I have paid dearly for it.
What about you?
Think about a time where you knew something you couldn’t explain. Or a time where you just knew what to do or where to go, without necessarily knowing why.
These are the times your superpowers are working.
Go towards that feeling, not away from it.
And the next time someone wants you to make a pros-and-cons list to make a decision, tell them you don’t need to! You have a built-in natural ability to know exactly what’s for you and not for you.
3- Don’t Be Afraid to Ask for What You Really Want
This is so hard for women sometimes.
We put others’ needs first. We nurture. We mother. We give.
And that’s wonderful!
But we are never meant to compromise ourselves in order to give to others. We can’t compromise our health, we can’t compromise our well being and we can no longer compromise our self-care.
You see, we are meant to thrive. To live a life we totally and completely love. And when we have a full cup, it’s so much easier to give from it.
Only when we feel fulfilled and full can we truly give with joy. Otherwise, we’re dipping into negative space to bolster someone else. Which eventually leads to burnout and resentment.
Please, my beautiful Queen, stand up and declare to the universe exactly what you want. Don’t be afraid to ask for it. Expect it, even.
And no request is too small or too big.
Be ready with an answer when you get asked, “where do you want to go to eat?” It’s a simple but extremely powerful step towards creating the life you deserve.
Likewise, be ready with an answer to something deeper, like “what do you need to heal?”
I promise, thinking in this new way will change your life.
After all, the best way to get exactly what you want is to ask for it.
Ultimately, most of our fears are completely in our heads. We are lucky to live in a time where we aren’t being attacked by wild saber tooth tigers. Our fears are of things like a failure or looking silly.
These are things we actually don’t need to be afraid of!
In fact, if you ask me, failure only brings us closer to success. If we’re failing, at least we’re trying! Staying safely within our comfort zone only serves to keep us stuck, which is exactly where that fear wants us to remain.
And guess what? We all look silly from time to time. Who cares? Releasing that judgment of ourselves and others is the path to freedom.
The next time you catch yourself judging someone else or yourself, try to re-frame the judgment. Release it and give the person a break (even if the person you’re judging is yourself).
Being gentle with yourself and others is much more conducive to creating joy and happiness in our lives than sitting in constant negative judgment.
Plus, you’ll find that as you let go of negativity, you have more energy and zest for life. Healing becomes within your grasp. Things that seemed impossible to achieve suddenly become attracted to you.
It’s all about changing that mindset. It’s such a critical and often overlooked component of health.
It’s my dream for every woman in the world to feel empowered and educated, especially about their own sacred feminine anatomy and health.
I know that we have a long way to go, and I have a lot of work left to do on this earth.
But I’m not going to let my fears stop me. I’m on a mission.
And I want you to join me.
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