As women, we’re socialized to put everyone’s needs before our own.
And to some extent, we like taking care of others. It’s just part of our nature.
But all too often, we take things too far.
And it’s not our fault…there’s a lot to do. Expectations are high.
Incomes need to be made, and families need to be fed. The personal and professional workloads for women are incredibly high.
And in a society that values busyness and encourages stress — it can be super hard to break away from the norm and finally declare that we’ve had enough.
Sometimes, the stress and obligations break us to the point of exhaustion, or it manifests as a breakdown in our mental or physical health.
Self-care isn’t selfish
As much as I’m a proponent of self-care, I realize it can be a bit of a loaded term these days.
Influencers and so-called gurus like to tout self-care habits that can be frankly ridiculous and almost impossible to implement.
I mean, who has time for
a two-hour morning routine that involves a soak in the tub, a manicure, six different types of green juices, a yoga session, plus gratitude journaling?
All of those things are awesome, by the way.
But let’s be realistic.
Success isn’t usually experienced in large, quick quantities.
It’s built one small habit at a time.
One daily act of self-care, even if it’s only for a few minutes, can add up to massive results over time.
And small, regular changes are so much easier to implement and stick with than resolving to change all the things all at once.
Your health and your pelvic floor healing work the same way.
When you start to put yourself first, in small ways and prioritize YOU — magical things start to happen.
Let go of perfectionism
The trap of busyness and stress is compounded by the need to feel perfect. Excellent at everything, and in need of no help.
Trust me, I battle with this one myself too.
It’s hard to look at social media and see the perfectly curated content of other women’s lives and not feel like you don’t quite add up.
It’s even harder to remember that those ‘perfect’ shots came after 100 takes, or that they don’t even remotely represent what’s going on in that woman’s life.
Just because she’s post
ing like she’s happy and thriving — doesn’t mean she actually is!
Here’s the thing. When we let go of perfection, self-care starts to happen more naturally.
When we’re ready to give up that image of perfection that we have in our minds and accept that we already are enough exactly as we are, self-love follows.
And when we start to love ourselves, we naturally want to take better care of ourselves.
Remember, you are enough exactly the way you are. You deserve to be healthy and happy. You are meant to live out your one and only life in a state of joy.
Where do I even start?
This, my lovely, is a great question.
So many times, we’ve gotten so far away from joy, hope, and love that we don’t even know what self-care would look like for us.
And it’s different for each one of us.
Sometimes, self-care looks like saying “no” to an opportunity or an invitation that we don’t want to do…Instead of saying “yes” when we don’t really mean it.
Other times, self-care means making hard choices about our jobs or relationships.
Often, we have to dig deep and make a concerted effort to connect with ourselves, with our gift of intuition, and actually listen to the voice within.
So, to some extent, I can’t really tell you what you should implement into your day to feel cared for…but here are some of my favorite activities that make me feel empowered, energized, and healthy:
- Take a walk in the woods
- Hang out with a girlfriend
- Commit to my pelvic exercises and massage every day
- Make a new dish I want to try even if my family isn’t interested
- Not checking my emails until 10 AM
- Going to yoga class
- Take a bubble bath
Ultimately, self-care is the act of putting on your oxygen mask before you help someone else. It’s choosing to be empowered and choosing yourself. Recognizing that you deserve the best.
Without your health, you can’t be there for anyone else.
And when you’re miserable, feeling tired and anxious about your leaky bladder — you simply can’t be the best version of you.
Let’s create massive success together
After healing almost 15,000 women and watching with pride as they stepped into their power and took control of their health, I can say for certain that putting yourself first is the #1 secret to success.
If you’re experiencing pelvic pain, prolapse, leaky bladder, or pain with sex, you might find it surprising that the first step you may need to take is committing to self-care…but I promise, it’s the secret ingredient you didn’t even realize was missing from your healing journey.
I’ve got a new video for you today, and it’s all about exactly how to implement self-care techniques and become relentlessly committed to putting yourself first.
I won’t lie — some of you may consider it to be “tough love.”
But after healing thousands of women’s pelvic floor issues, I can say with certainty that this is exactly what you need to hear.
I’ve seen this mentality work wonders fo
r even the most difficult clinical case.
I’ve seen this way of thinking transform lives.
And I want you to experience that same kind of success.